I just want her to understand that she is responsible for her own actions, stop blaming me and sort herself out.
Why?
Originally Posted By: RBG80
But she is a fully grown woman who needs to take responsibility for her own decisions and actions.
Again, why?
To me, this sounds like you are still hoping/wanting an apology or acknowledgment of her 'wronging' you. She IS a fully grown woman. Which means that it isnt your responsibility to save or fix her.
I agree with your friends - leave her alone. Youre in a new relationship now.
My biggest frustration is that she cannot see that she has any part of the blame laying at her own door. She just see's me as the cause of all of her problems.
You cannot worry about getting her to see the error of her ways. If you are moving onto a new R the blame game doesn't matter anymore when you are done with your M. Let her see you as the cause of all her problems. Who cares?
If you have closed the door on her, moved to a new R, coparenting is what matters. And whose fault it is has nothing to do with that.
For the longest time I wanted my ex to see how wrong he was. The day I realized it really doesn't matter was the day I knew it was all over.
