Is there room for a chair more?

[doodler]

So I sent WH an e-mail and asked him if he would file promptly if I signed paperwork to allow that. He hasn't answered - it's been two days.

Painter,

Are you opposed to filing yourself?

[Dawgs]

Are you opposed to filing yourself?

It is said to be quite beneficial to file first.

[Painter]

WH's L had already filed, although WH denies it. He claims he didn't instruct them to do that. They can't move forward unless I'm served or waive service.

Also, I live out of state now so I don't think I can file in the state we used to live in.

Since we already have a settlement, there's no advantage to filing first.

Also, I think he should pay for it.

[Painter]

WH was willing to compromise and I'm fine with his offer. If he agrees to move forward, I may be D by the end of the month.

[Painter]

So WH has been dragging his feet, but finally got around to seeing his L. I received papers and will be signing them this week. The L said it will take 6-8 weeks to get them signed by the judge, so the D will most likely be final in early May.

I'm so ready to have it over with. It will have been more than a year since I left by then, and I haven't seen him since.

Life is for the most part very good, and I have in reality moved on. Every interaction with WH is the same (e-mail only), causing only frustration.

[Dawgs]

The L said it will take 6-8 weeks to get them signed by the judge, so the D will most likely be final in early May.

That's odd. As long as the papers/terms/agreements are signed and completed by both parties, then it is a matter of having at least one of the parties (in my state, in an uncontested all it takes is one of the parties and their lawyer) show up at court. Uncontested is always first on the list. Unless their is some legal reason for a 6 - 8 week wait, I don't see why...

[Painter]

We're submitting an agreement that we both have signed to a judge, who will sign it in his office. Nobody has to go to court. WH has to make a deposition at his L's office (I didn't know about that part) first, though.

The former judge had these processed in a couple of weeks, but the new judge (I know a lot about him from before and he's very odd) takes 6-8 weeks before he can be bothered to put his signature on them.

[Vanilla]

I am hoping all is settled quickly for you lovely Painter.

So the freedom door is open and you may walk through it, the sunlight in your hair and the warm breeze caressing your face.

You are on the path ahead of me, I look forward to hearing your heart sing it's joyous song of liberty.

V

[Painter]

Tomorrow is the first anniversary for the separation. I drove 1000 miles with most of my stuff in a van. 3 weeks later, WH moved his mistress into our home in secret. No good memories.

I drown myself in art and music and activities with friends. I have a lovely weekend planned at a B&B on the lake with someone special in my life (it's a special occasion). It's still a difficult week.

[Ginger1]

I'm sorry this is a difficult week for you, but look at far you have come.

You are one brave woman who took her situation by the balls and made a life for herself.

Enjoy your weekend with your someone special.