Thanks for the well wishes. I do NOT plan to move too quickly. Aside from this being something that doesn't feel right, the truth is that while I have things to work on, so does she. And as far as I can tell, she still hasn't changed anything. I'm NOT going back to the way we used to live.
I still believe a lot of counseling for the two of us is required before she ever comes back into the house, regardless of any changes she makes. She is continuing with her move in any case, which I believe is for the best.