Yes. What your saying makes sense. That his wife was holding on to him with negative attention. Sounds like she has a lot of anger still.

How long have they been divorced for?
Why is she still coming after him for money? Shouldn't that have been settled?

And yes, I think you're right in that many of these guys do have some sort of child good trauma.

What are your goals right now? Do you want reconciliation?

M: 42
H: 43
Twins age 5
WAH in summer