For those of you out there who have moved on, I'm curious. What was the biggest cause of your shift in thought? What caused you to truly give up and drop the rope ...and LEAVE it on the ground?
For me .... I had had enough of the pain. the past 3 years and all I had done, mirror work, GAL, PMA, 180's all of it single handedly trying to salvage my married it hit me ... to who? This woman was no longer my wife, the things she did and continued to do ... basically it was the last straw ... reading the TM to OM, and seeing the image she sent I realized this was no longer my wife... looked like her, sounded like her, all those things but my wife would never do what this person in possession of her was doing and it was not like she was oblivious to the pain she was causing .. it was almost like she enjoyed it in a sick twisted way.
So I let it go .... was not easy but it came to a point I no longer wanted to pick it up, thing was heavy and roughed up my hands pretty good.
