So this will probably be my shortest post ever, but I have a question.
After my tax conversations with XH, I saw that he was really doing a lot of thinking and I still understand that he is stressed and depressed, but something shifted in me. I kept revisiting the fact that he focused on how I have "his money" and that he threw out at me that I never thanked him for the money he paid our taxes with. That last bit was rewriting, as he's mentioned my "lack of appreciation" before and so I make a point to thank him for everything he does, even him just responding to a question.
For some reason, that made me realise that no matter what I do, I am the root cause of all of his troubles, or will be made to be. After a down day a week later and a great vacation, I woke up and felt as if the "pining" for him was really gone. I am more focussed on today and the future than the past.
For those of you out there who have moved on, I'm curious. What was the biggest cause of your shift in thought? What caused you to truly give up and drop the rope ...and LEAVE it on the ground?
M-51 H-54 2D-27 and 25 M-26 yrs Bombshell and IHS 7-29-15 He moved out 10-3-15 D filed 1-27-16 D final 10-27-16
