Thread #3 - Mediation

[KevinIn]

Mediation #2 is over. My DB coach would not be happy with me, and im not particularly happy with me either.

I was too passive aggressive and took too many cheap shots. Mainly comments about if she really cared about time with the kids, she wouldnt be pursuing separation and she would have actually tried to make it work. She was holding back tears due to the guilt i was throwing at her.

I did ask if it made her angry at me, which she said "no, you are right, and i (my wife) deserves it." I also temperature checked at the end. Dumb idea on my part.

But, for the custody part, i believe we only have 2 unresolved issues:

Introducing romantic partners, and sleepovers with them. I took a more aggressive stance against it for the sake of the kids. She wants to introduce people much sooner.

Christmas vacation - we originally agreed that i could get the kid's entire winter break. Now she wants to split it. I said no. I want the kids the whole time.

I know this is a marathon, but im sick of it and im done with her.