For example, "I'm not interested in being friends with you while you are in a relationship with another man." There is nothing there which she can argue or dispute. It's about you putting a fence around what you will or wont accept.
What you wrote is about her. She made XYZ choices so you are responding to them. In my mind, it reads as punishing. But it also reads as leaving lots of room for further discussion.
Keep your focus on 'I statements', I think.
Thank you Kaizen, I did think my response was a little too "HER" after I sent it. I am still learning this new way of thinking and communicating and welcome your guidance in this process.
I think and I feel are ok?
M 8 yrs EA 6/16 PA 09/16 Separated 10/16 WW moves out 11/16 D Filed 11/16, Hearing 05/08/17
