Just keep in mind that MLC is a harsh journey, the MLCer is highly conflicted even during the piecing phase, so just let him be with his thoughts and live your life. Give him space and fill your space with "happy" time.
In life, nothing is set in stone, so stop projecting yourself "with him" in the future, enjoy each day, your kids, and your friends. At one point I decided to stop "building" a future with him in my mind even when he was talking about OUR RETIREMENT, I just started to live my life fully each day and enjoy the company of "positive people". I showed him that I could LIVE and be HAPPY with him but also without him, I planned trips and made work decisions based on Me only and the kids, like your husband he used to tell me that I was too dependent on him... I showed him by my actions that his thoughts were wrong, and if I decided to stay it's because I cared but I could live and thrive without him. It took months for him to realize that but now he is becoming aware that I can leave him if I want to. Also my actions had a positive influence on my teenage kids, they learned how to detach, be themselves and sail a few storms. When they have issues they come to me not him. Hang there,
HUGS
Me 52+ WH 57+ Married 20 + Piecing since 2016 (ready to give up...)
