WAS vs MLC..not sure it really makes a difference

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That's a lot of conversations in a very short period of time, that's great!

You really changed... I like the New You.

As you are starting to realize, detaching is very healthy for you, it helps you to look at yourself, take steps for your own well being, and feel so much better inside.

I like your analysis of your husband's behavior, I agree it's a mix of different things.
Something is happening for sure otherwise he won't be so compelled to talk. As you noticed, the more you validate and listen the more he speaks, it might be only about himself but at least it's the beginning of some sort of communication.

He is still in his MLC journey, most probably the replay phase is over or almost. He is starting to reflect on his actions,what led to them, and the consequences it had on him and others, it's a process, don't try to rush it, but by listening and validating him, you are actually helping him to sort out his feelings and ideas. I remember my husband used to blame me for his affairs during his replay phase, then when he entered withdrawal/depression, one day while we were talking about the past and OW, he told me that "It had nothing to do with you".

Stay detached even if he warms up to you, now being detached is almost like a second nature for me, it makes feel protected, it's my little cocoon, I have been hurt so badly, the last thing I want it's to walk through that road again.

Start living a life that makes you happy, make projects for you and if he wants to join you aboard, fine, but put yourself first, you need to heal and be able to open your heart to joy again without fear of being hurt.

I am so glad your life is starting to turn around for you, I can feel the energy coming back to you by just reading your last posts.

Carpe Diem because life is too short to let somebody steal another second of our happiness.

((HUGS))