Hi RBG, I just think she is a grown woman who fired you from the job of being spouse and quite recently too. From what you post, it doesn't sound as though you have any specific parental concerns, and so I would leave her to it.

I understand your frustration about her not accepting blame. Truth is, if I had coffee with any of the WAS's here, I'm sure they would come across as decent people, and we all have our own 'take' on our situation. In mine, XH has never offered an apology, and nor does he seem to regret his actions. Though when he and OW had one of their break ups, he did say something along the lines of he knew he had made mistakes, but he hoped I would see that he's a decent guy who really knew what he wanted now....blah blah. None of that really helped me much at the time..

I think we need to find our own closure, without looking for the WAS to give us something. In the state of mind many are in, what they would offer may not help in any case.

This is well meant, but you seem a tad too preoccupied with your W to invest in a new R. Do you think you are ready to get involved with a new person? If you google relationships and entanglements, you might find some useful information there..

Hope this helps anyway and have a good day :-)

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