Hi all....it's been a while as I've been concentrating on me and have been "dark" while my husband was out of town. He was gone for 5 weeks during which time I did no contact (except for our son issues). It was going very well, until H came back. BTW, he moved out of our home 2.5 months ago. Anyway, I had found out about his OW while he was away. Last night I told him that I know about the OW, but he AGAIN blindsided me telling me he is taking her out of town today to meet his family at his stepbrother's wedding. I am FLOORED!!! His affair has been going on since September, even though he only moved out in January. He has lied, cheated, been deceitful, manipulative, passive-aggressive. He lacks a moral compass and integrity. While talking last night, he told me twice he is "done". He even began denying his affair. He also told me that the thing she and he have in common is drinking. He wants a drinking buddy, not a wife. They met at a bar. They are both still married; the OW's H left her about 9 months ago for someone else; they have two small children. And yet, my H was fair game. Yes, I'm mad, but more than this PLEASE help me understand why I haven't let go emotionally yet!! This man is NOT GOOD for me. He and I are very different morally and otherwise. I still want him back! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME? Why am I holding onto hope.....he is backing up his words with his actions - "I'm done"...he has OW; "I don't miss you"...he never initiates calling or conversations; "I didn't cheat on you"....lie; "We are two fundamentally different people"...yes, I believe in family and fidelity, and I see he does not.
I mean it, I need help with this BADLY!! I need someone to kick me and give me focus on letting this man go emotionally, and in all other ways, but especially emotionally. I have taken a HUGE slide backward. Please help.
M-49 H-47 D Bomb - Dec 9 2016 H moved out - Jan 24 2017 OW discovery - March 15 2017 Son 8 years old
M: 49 H: 47 Son: 8 DBomb: Dec 9, 2016 H moved out: Jan 24, 2017
