So after our spat last night, she just texted me and said "I have been trying really hard lately, and I feel like you just don't want me around." She then says, I feel like "you're playing games" bc my FB doesn't say I'm married. I don't even really know how to change that? I am not a social media guy...I have told her repeatedly "I want you, I want us and nothing or nobody else. She says, "I don't know what you want bc you say one thing and then act another way." I have been trying to give her space, I don't text or call during the day very often, and when we are home I am not physically affectionate, bc I feel like she needs to initiate on her terms. No intimate contact at all, nor has there been any allusion to that. This is fine, I don't push for it, but I am also trying not to be clingy or needy, so I don't know what to do or how to act. She has said "I don't know what I want" so I don't push. She says, "I ignore her every night, and I don't make any effort to have any conversation with her". What am I supposed to do? I have backed off, I am not cold, I still say ILY, kiss her, hug her, and try to be playful. I feel like all the emotions she is feeling (like she's losing me) are being pushed off onto me to make me feel guilty. I am tired of being the safety net here. I refuses to say she wants to be with me, and her actions look more like she is just biding her time then trying to be my W.
How do I act???? I want her to know what I want her, but I am not going to be needy or clingy either. Why doesn't she see the hurt, confusion, and uncertainty that I am feeling????
Me-35, W-31 T: 12 M: 11 S5 BD: 11/2016, Wants Divorce Divorce off table 1/17 EA (11/2016)/PA (3/17)confirmed Status Unknown as of 3/29/17
