I don't believe the behavior is remotely acceptable. I'm working on being prepared for her not coming home. The truth is that is what I expect at this point. I agree with Kaizen that there is currently no marriage to save.
I agree with you that if it cannot be gotten past, then there will never be reconciliation. Wondering where she is and what she's doing, and who she's doing it with are no way to live a life. That's why I said I was willing to TRY. I don't know that I would succeed, and if I couldn't, then that would be all she wrote, but I'd be willing to TRY. How can anyone claim to honor their marriage vows (regardless of what the spouse has done) if they aren't willing to TRY?
I'm prepared to move forward without her (if I weren't, I wouldn't be getting ready to file for divorce). I don't WANT to, but I'm prepared to.
Gonna stop on this for now, because I feel like I'm justifying, and that's not where I need to be. I agree living for myself (and D) is what I need to do, and that's what I'm trying. Thanks Kaizen (and Jeeps) for the good advice.
