I guess, all in all, I was pretty shocked at how old, worn out and tired some of the gentlemen of my own age looked. I don't know what I was expecting, but so many of them *look* old. I couldn't see myself going out with them. So clearly someone who looks after themselves and a certain amount of youthfulness is also appealing to me.
focus22,
I guess the welcoming committee hasn't arrived yet. Welcome! I remember your name from the newcomers forum.
I'm a bit older than you, and when I started dating, I was surprised at what I found. It reminded me of the old adage, "rode hard and put up wet." But I think there are some gems out there as well.
Hey doodler! Thanks for stopping by, appreciate it.
Had to look that one up, as I'd never heard it before...lol!
It's been an education, for sure :o)
I'm also pleasantly surprised at how relaxed I've been about it all. From being someone who really wanted other people to like me, and to feel validated by being with someone else, I've discovered that I'm now much less concerned with all of that. I would even go so far as to say that I'm not particularly bothered if someone doesn't like me. If you knew e before, you'd know what a transformation that was.
I've also become much more interested in seeing what other people have to offer (not just talking dating here, but friendships too).
I don't know, but I'd say that it feels like the worst has past. Six months and a year after WH left were definitely milestones and turning points. The six month point was last spring, and it felt like it coincided with some new shoots growing in my life too. A year was a turning point too, more like the close of something, a natural end.
Anyway, I'd say I'm feeling good about my life at the moment, and about the choices I'm making. They feel like positive choices for me, for now and for the future.
We'll see. One thing I'm learning is that there are always surprises in store. And those surprises give you the chance (the gift) of being able to examine some of your attitudes and preconceptions.
