I saw someone else post this, but it looks like you are doing the 180s for her and not for you and that you are looking over your shoulder to see if she is noticing. You have to stop that. It takes time. While it seems better if they stay, you can't force her to do so. All you can do is to work on you and detaching and not allowing your every thought to be dominated by her actions.
That said, sounds like you have a good idea of what to do and need to keep doing, but more. I think that while validating is necessary, you don't want to over-apologize and take all the blame. You can validate without doing that.
You are partially right about doing the 180 for her. The working out, distancing, and GAL I'm doing for me, but I am hoping she notices, and changes her mind. I appreciate the tip about over apologizing. That's the kind of insight I'm asking for.
And Jeep74, I appreciate your insight as well, but I can't remember what the butterfly is about
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
