Looking for a miracle.

[peacetoday]

Just a guess but I think the MLCer has to continue the lie because its the only way they can keep going

they deceive themselves

the lie is I didn't do that much, It wasn't so bad, it was for the best for everyone, I deserve my happiness, Istill dont have to be responsible, I am a good person-I really didn't hurt anyone

Im not sure why she would lie about her dad, maybe at the time she thought he was dying and new information came about his progress, maybe she is on drugs or mood altering substances
You continue to handle her well and she just reinforces the fact that she needs lot more time to get through it
unfortunately it is not in our time

I felt that when my XH finally left me a VM months back,,first time since 2009--he was still looking to see if I would fix it or him in some way
he apologized but talk is cheap..I felt I handled it best with no response back( I had his friend contact him as he requested)
I could tell he wasn't ready to give up his position
he didn't hit bottom-