Yesterday I felt like I was finally getting my emotions in check.
Today, a different story. It's amazing how your emotions ebb and flow during a sitch like this.
W seems to be on the good side of wanting to work it out, but she's annoying me because I think she has the just "sweep it under the rug" mentality. She not doing anything out of the ordinary to help her or me.
I have accumulated a bunch of knowledge from this forum and in the DR book and I just want to throw all the material at her, but know I can't. Should I be telling her what to do? Guiding her? or... should I sit back and wait till she gets moving. Why do I have to do the heavy lifting, when W is the one who had the A???? Doesn't she owe me?
Today the sitch is on repeat in my head and I'm getting pissed. I feel like I should be yelling at her, but know I can't! Frustrated and venting!!!
How do I proceed?
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Fortunately, I called and set up an appointment, I will begin the coaching session tomorrow. Happy about that!
Unfortunately, W and I tried to have a conversation and it didn't go to well. I guess I should of waited until after my first coaching session. Walking the tight rope!
Be still. Dont scare the squirrel back up the tree.
Scare a squirrel that's not there?
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Purchased 10 DB Coaching sessions and had my first session today. First it feels great to puke everything up and get my sitch out. I've done it a few times w/ close friends and IC (which I gave up to do DB coaching) and I have to say each time I do it feel GOOD just to talk about it!
W and I are still just biz partners and roommates. No R talks and no emotions. Coach says I should just act normal and not pursue. Coach also says to watch W carefully, actions not words.
Although I haven't pulled the trigger and cxl my flight res for our family trip Saturday, I think I'm going to. I need a little me time. Plus since both my W and I are in the pulling back posture, I don't feel like walking on eggshells for a week, plus it won't be good for the kids.
Family is on vacation since 4/8, I decided to stay back cause of my sitch.
Completed reading DR and had some good alone time to think. Not much contact with W other than a few text about kids/biz. I've Facetimed, text and spoken to my kids several times.
I thought I would get some sort of reaction from W staying back and not contacting her, but seems like she's going on her mary way in life. She's not showing much emotion or remorse etc. Don't know how I should read that at 5 weeks after bomb.
I guess I was expecting more.
I still have the emotion rollercoaster ride feeling the whole spectrum. Will it ever level out?
