One week away from the family meeting at the counselor. I’m worried how I’ll react when I hear my kids honest view on the whole situation. I know that XW will be cold and hard like a stone towards their emotions.
Just one more thing for now, I think XW believe I’m angry with her due to different views on how to handle the kids schedule. She appears to have no clue that I’m angry because of the betrayal. She must think that I believed the bull she wrote me back in January, that she didn’t have an affair towards the end of our M (with the OM she’s dating now).
Hello Btrow,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
It sounds like there is a bit of mind reading happening here. It is hard to know what your wife believes.Rather than spending time thinking about that, focus all of your time, effort and energy on being the best Btrow and Dad that only a fool would leave.
Little compares to the devastation people feel when they discover their spouse has been unfaithful. I can appreciate that you are worried about how you will react during the family meeting with the counselor in a week.
Knowing what to do and what not to do at this point is crucial. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.
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D8 and D10 told me yesterday that D3 cried for a long time Saturday night missing daddy even though she saw me for a couple of hours the day before.
Btrow - This hurts a lot and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. I know R a M is easier said than done, but to maintain the one two-parent home seems so worth the difficult road to get there.
Best of luck to you and your kids navigating all this.
Trying
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
Just a quick question. How do I handle meeting OM (eventually it will happen)? I mean for them, they might consider this a new relationship that only started after D (I'm not even sure XW knows what an EA is), but I consider him AP turned into OM.
Do I ignore him or just give a polite nod?
M:46 WXW:40 T:20 M:13 D3,D8,D10 BD:11/12/16 D:12/14/16 OM confirmed 01/20/17
He's not worth the jail time, but kicking his a$$ would I'm sure feel pretty great. He deserves it. Hang in there. It is hard, but this is a good, supportive place, with lots of very knowledgeable, giving people.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
Doodler: i'm sure there is a huge amount of humor in that sentence, but i simply dont get it (english not being my first language)
Btrow,
No problem, my XW never got any of my humor so I made her divorce me.
What I was trying to imply is that your XW had already introduced you to a boyfriend (fictitious), but it's not the guy that she's introducing you to at the moment. Thus, you could potentially stir up some trouble between your XW and her boyfriend.
I don't know if that makes things any clearer. If not, I'll try to work on some new material.
I get it now. Nice. My XW wouldn't get it either, but keep em' coming.
The problem using that joke is that both XW and OM is well aware that I know who he is. It is not like we never discussed her "friend" the last six months prior to BD. Only met him once though. Last summer at XW 40th birthday party where all co-workers were invited. Didn't talk to him that day but he gave me a hug when leaving. First time ever someone I never met before, appeared "guilty" of something. Weird feeling, right...
M:46 WXW:40 T:20 M:13 D3,D8,D10 BD:11/12/16 D:12/14/16 OM confirmed 01/20/17
(english not being my first language)