WW won't separate

[resolut]

No I'm not taking any of the blame at all. Yes she definitely made the decision and continues to. And I agree 100% she was checked out years ago. It is so much easier to see that now. But of course she makes so many things up and blames everything on me.

All I am saying is that over the years there are things I was inadequate at and I do own those. But no I am not accepting responsibility in any way for the affair. I'm sorry if what I wrote in my earlier post made it sound that way. Thanks for insisting and setting the record straight though.

I never said I was willing to overlook the affair. I mean that I'm still at the point of being willing to try and work on the marriage through MC if she ends the affair. If I wasn't willing then I would just go and file for D today.