So what are your personal boundaries? your W is in a PA with another man, and she still gets to sleep in your marital bed? Why are you having ^^ these conversations to begin with?
That's easier said than done from my standpoint. I have told her I want her to leave the MBR and move out. She refuses. Doesn't want to leave the children. I will continue to tell her these two things. Short of serving her with divorce papers myself, which I'm not yet willing to do, my options seem limited. this sort of stalemate must surely happen in other marriages.
I am definitely open to hearing of 180's though and perhaps I need to set more boundaries. I am staying strong and not giving her any ground. I know I was much weaker in the days when I found out about the PA and confronted her. The grieving and shock took some time to get over with and I made plenty of mistakes by pleading and pursueing. I'm taking steps to move into a more empowered role in the marriage now.
Me46 W46 M25yrs T29yrs 4 children ILYBNILWY 1/30/17 PA confronted 3/6/17 Separated same house
