Eyes on the next curve

[Bird]

Thank you all for your support. D12 is my girl with some moderate special needs as well (ADHD,Aspergers). Coupled with middle school and puberty, this latest change I think is just too much for her. Our appointment with the therapist on Monday went very well. D tends to open up and answer questions directly when therapist asks them, as opposed to shrugging when I ask. She is a lot like H in that she bottles up her negative emotions and stuffs them down. I'm certain that's what eventually triggered his MLC, that and depression inherited from his father. It looks like D is on the same path. What's different for her is that she has me to keep an eye on her and make sure she gets what she needs to find a healthy way to cope with these changes and not to sweep it under the rug. The whole situation is just sad. Sad that her father first denied that it was actually cutting and sadder still that he thinks it could be multiple things and not the separation that's causing it. Therapist gave him a nice 2x4 on that issue but I doubt it penetrated his bubble. I'm exasperated with him because I think this can be pretty much laid on his shoulders. And yet he claims to want the best for the kids. I don't think this is the best.

Still working out how to compromise on custody and support in our meeting on Saturday. Practicing my debate skills and keeping emotion out of the negotiation. I wish I could take a nap for 6 months and wake up moved into a new house with the old one sold! Where's my fairy godmother??