Yesterday I felt like I was finally getting my emotions in check.
Today, a different story. It's amazing how your emotions ebb and flow during a sitch like this.
W seems to be on the good side of wanting to work it out, but she's annoying me because I think she has the just "sweep it under the rug" mentality. She not doing anything out of the ordinary to help her or me.
I have accumulated a bunch of knowledge from this forum and in the DR book and I just want to throw all the material at her, but know I can't. Should I be telling her what to do? Guiding her? or... should I sit back and wait till she gets moving. Why do I have to do the heavy lifting, when W is the one who had the A???? Doesn't she owe me?
Today the sitch is on repeat in my head and I'm getting pissed. I feel like I should be yelling at her, but know I can't! Frustrated and venting!!!
How do I proceed?
Hello FindAir,
I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.
It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many emotions and thoughts going through your head!
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