Thank you .... not to exclude anyone but uR you have been on my mind throughout all this and I can always feel the fuzzy 2x4 smack my face.
So its been what a month, I honestly have been pretty busy and this past month not really around here much ... I have read and posted a couple times but just felt a need to pull back and try to start seeing the world without the MLC glasses on 24/7 .... its more about the healing process and the fact work was absolutely nuts last month.
So there has been a bit of a development in my sitch. I am not sure I ever shared this tidbit ... its not at all shocking in MLC land I fear. So my BD was 2013, my MLCr decided in 2014 to file her taxes seperately from mine, ofcourse this was news to me when it came tax time and not only did I have to file my own ... she went ahead and claimed our only son as her deduction. You have to love it right? Needless to say I owed (about 5k) and ofcourse with her empting the accounts late in 2013 and putting all that money in her personal account I was forced to make an installment payments.... given the small apr and the fact I had all these new expenses (Apartment/Single auto insurance/single phone...etc) I simply just made the payments and the balance was slowly going in the right direction.
Fast forward to 2015, IRS informs me just as I was about to pay off 2014 that they have added an adittional 6k from 2013... a year we actually filed normally. The accountant we used is her family accountant and over a year of emails I could not get anything out of him nor her concerning this amount. I am not sure if she went back and changed something, if she was given a return that was in error ...not any word nor help. So I decided I would just disclose this amount to be taken care of with the divorce stuff and let it sit.
I just recieved a letter from the IRS over the weekend that they have applied overpayment from 2016 to this 2013 balance. Took a few hours for my brain power to kick in that my MLCr must have already filed (she claims our son this year) and the IRS was so kind as to take her $5500 return and apply it to that 2013 balance. Hot cup of Karma anyone? The beuaty of this ... she most likely has no idea its happened yet, continues to look for the IRS check in her account and will have to keep waiting on that till she finally calls up the accountant who is aware of the 2013 issue but most likey figured good ol Cali would be holding that bag.
I did have to laugh ... then I laughed again. You just can not make this stuff up.
So other than that I am doing well, job is going very well .. I look to buy a condo once the D is finalized and continue to do the mirror work.. GAL.. and my PMA has been nice and steady. I also converse with a supportive group of fellas who have been through the hell and we help keep each other on the tracks.
One of which left me with a quote I feel I must share concerning MLC. The topic was about letting go and how hard it is ... given the long amount of time with your spouse, the lost time with your kids, the realization of that family unit you always knew is simply gone. Then the quote that really struck a chord.... "At some point one either let's go of the rope ... or they continue to be dragged, MLC was definitely a lesson in getting dragged." I know I hung on for some time before I truly let go and decided the journeys we were both going to have to go through had nothing to do with the other, she has her walk and I clearly had mine. We let go when we let go ... we suffer to the point where we can no longer suffer any longer and we force ourselves to change ... no one can do this but us, no one can take that first step for us.
It does get better ... I did not say easier .. just better.
