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[LW2381]

Tryin-

Use my thread ANYTIME, you have helped me so much, it's the least I can do.

The "grass is greener" idea my wife has used as her reasoning (not excuses) many times. I just worry that my W sees how freely this girl lives (she's 24, just married, no kids). She hasn't hit real life yet. She still gets to party and go and come as she pleases, I know her husband (we're friends) and that will come to a crashing halt any day. I don't think this girl would ever encourage an A (as she doesn't know the details completely of our R), but she may not stop one either.

My W definitely knows I will fight for us. However, when I told her I'll be okay with or without her, she went into either panic or temp checking mode, and made sure there wasn't another girl or that I still wanted this R. I told her, "you are what I want" but "I won't lay down in the floor and stop living if you leave." That hit her pretty hard, but she still can't carry on a real R conversation as she "doesn't know or can't say what she wants for sure." Her whole life has been driven by fear, and that is what is driving this now. I hate to tell her that once she leaves the comforts of someone who protected her for almost 12 years, everything else becomes a lot more scary. She may have to figure out the hard way.