Separated In Process of Divorce (Anniversary)

[sellout]

So we were texting back and forth this morning about coordination of picking up our son. Then the texts morphed into divorce/feelings talk etc. Long story short, I am going over to the house today to "talk". As a reminder about 2-3 weeks ago, she reached out to me unsolicited and wanted to meet for dinner "just to talk". Upon arrival, i asked what the agenda was and she didn't have one and just wanted to talk in a low key environment since every time we had talked in the last 3 months was heated and emotional. This morning I told her the same thing basically. I said we are schedule for our first court date tomorrow and it would be nice to have a real talk with you with no emotions involved before we start seeing each other in court. With that said, I am going to the house today at 5:00 with no agenda in mind. Any ideas/recommendations on what to do or say? Yes, she is still in full relationship with OM and open about it. Perhaps I recommend to "Pause" the divorce to let things settle down a little bit before making such a life altering decision? Or, perhaps I cancel on her at the last minute and tell her that I've had a change of heart and have any types of talks with her?