Realizing that I made myself too vulnerable on Sunday which set me up for a bad day yesterday. Back at trying to be on top of the waves today instead of pulled under.
Looking for advice on financial situation. Since this ain't our first rodeo, we essentially have separate finances. All of our savings are in one account and I know we'd ultimately split if D happens.
I've spoken before about cake eating and wanting to minimize that and it's really on two fronts: 1) time with kids and 2) finances.
We're going to be splitting an apartment starting in a few weeks with one parent home with kids and other parent at apartment. She's wanting it to be pretty open at the house with the kids, but I know I'm going to have to hold firm on scheduled time (W not intruding on my time w/ kids).
On Finances, I make more than her and pay all bills. She's already agreed to pay for the apartment (she just went back to work in September). Her income has been there to help offset grocery spending, paying down CC debt and household spending.
I'm looking at doing the calculations for child support and trying to incorporate this "new life" in with our separation. What I mean is, she should pay for her car note, portion of home expenses (house payment/apt wash), and her expenses (such as gas, groceries, etc.).
Ultimately, if we start the D process, we'll end up here and maybe it's a bit of damned if I do, damned if I don't or even 6 in one and half a dozen in the other.
Does anyone have advice on pushing this financial split while in separation vs. waiting for D processes? This is not some real spiteful action I'm trying to take here, but more prevention of cake eating and protecting myself.
Would this do more harm than good in forcing this agenda before we've actually brought up attorneys and D?
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17
