Also, she had her paycheck deposited into a separate account from our joint account from which we pay the household bills, in anticipation of moving out and needing her own money. How do I get her to contribute to what is still our joint household without causing a huge fight about money?
One more thing.... we're due a substantial tax refund. She contributed about 5% of our tax bill, and I paid the rest. I know she's going to want 50% of our refund, which will give her 10 times more than she paid in taxes. How do I avoid this minefield? What have others in our situation done?
thanks
Jim,
The way you handle your financial stuff is to open your own checking account now and put everything you can into that account including the check for the tax return. Currently, you're separating, not divorcing. You may have to pay some child support while separated. Make sure the money is in a safe place and go see a lawyer. After talking with the lawyer, you can decide how to divvy-up the money.
