She is moving out this weekend, and keeps bringing up support. My pay has decreased, and she's not going to get as much support as she thinks she will. How do I validate her point of view, and still say "No way."
Don't worry about validating anymore as that's not what is important. Just tell her straight up the situation, and that if she wants to go that route, then the lawyers will figure it out.
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Also, she had her paycheck deposited into a separate account from our joint account from which we pay the household bills, in anticipation of moving out and needing her own money. How do I get her to contribute to what is still our joint household without causing a huge fight about money?
Let's see. You are still married and that money is considered marital property. I'd talk to your lawyer, but I'd be willing to bet that you will be told the same. A huge fight? Not important. What is important, is your well-being and responsibility. It seems like she is after more than her fair share. Don't discuss anything other than "we will have our lawyers look at it." At this point, that's what is necessary.
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One more thing.... we're due a substantial tax refund. She contributed about 5% of our tax bill, and I paid the rest. I know she's going to want 50% of our refund, which will give her 10 times more than she paid in taxes. How do I avoid this minefield? What have others in our situation done?
You can't. See marital property above. She will get half.
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