I read your story and I see so much inconsistency. So much wishy-washiness. You've threatened lawyers and divorce how many times? To me, that's like threatening a child with losing privileges but not taking them away if the behaviors continue.
My point isn't that you need to be giving out ultimatums. My point is that you know you are being walked on, but you aren't willing to actually stand up and ENFORCE your own personal boundaries.
You are riding her emotional roller coaster and letting her 'toy' with you. What will you do to get off? (And no, I don't think divorce is the answer)
