WAS or what 9

[roist]

Oops reset to zero again!!Hehehe. It's a balancing act between not being critical/negative and speaking up against some behavior. It wasn't major but not acceptable to me either. Looks like my work on being more assertive is working.

Interactions with W were much better afterwards.

I have not perfected my communication when doing this. Ideally I want to use the sandwich method where you say something positive, then the negative point and finish with a positive statement all related. Choice of words and phrasing stuff differently all help so I intend to continue until that becomes natural for me.

SBJ thanks for your kind words. I share bits of what I learn so others can use it too if they want, but I think each of us has to learn on our own and do so in relation to where they are at present on their own journey.

I believe my approach is right for me now. It is about becoming who I really want to be. That can only be positive. I also believe I can rebuild a better R with my W. I work towards that too indirectly by working on me. My W is not yet at a place where that is possible but neither is she at a place where it is impossible.

Best wishes