I have been reading a bit of newcomers and there are so many posters back on here who saved their marriages only to have their spouses do this again.
Maybe it's a blessing when they don't come back because who wants to go through the pain of piecing and forgiving and unavoidable mistrust and insecurity only to go through all of this again?
Don't you think, it shouldn't be necessary to have to hide your anger (which is natural and normal) and be flirty or friendly to someone who had lied, betrayed, abandoned (not natural reactions) to have soneone want to be with you?
Once they leave it kind of shows that they are just not committed. Why would this ever change?
I really resented my ex after my son was born. It was hormonal and sleep deprivation and depression and my ex was not being fair about a lot of things. But neither was i. But I never left and I never cheated. I just dealt.
How can you go back to a marriage where you know someone is capable of walking out? Doesn't it set you up for a lifetime of walking on egg shells and knowing that your marriage is not based on committment but based on good behaviors and this demand for something that is not always possible?
