WW won't separate

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Thanks doodler and EastTN.

I've been stuck in this for a month now since I confronted her with the proof I had of the PA. She won't leave she says because of the kids. She doesn't want to leave them.

I should also mention she blames me of endless failures over the past 25 years. I ever saw her. I always shamed her. She was never in love with me she says. Etc. I don't believe any of that and I'm doing what I can to not let it take me down but it hurts.

I'm seeing a counselor which helps immensely. All I can think of to do is stay strong and dig in my own heels. I know she is eating cake on me but she obviously has too much fear to leave. I haven't offered to work with her yet on leaving so perhaps that will help?