WW won't separate

[resolut]

Thanks so much for the reply.

Well since she doesn't have a job I feel like everything is enabling the affair. Gas, cell phone, etc. To set boundaries against those basics seems difficult but I'm willing to listen.

Our finances are so-so. A D would be devastating but we could find the money to rent a place for her right now. The next time she brings up the topic of suffocating and needing space I'm going to suggest I help her find her own place. She will push back but it seems like at some point she could break.