I've been reading this forum and and off for the past few months. It has been of tremendous help. I thought I would post since my situation seems to have come to an impasse.
My wife and I are both 46, married for 25 years and have 4 children.
She is in an PA that I believe started in January and it is still ongoing. I confronted her outright about a month ago so it has been in the open since then.
I've been doing DB tactics and making plenty of mistakes along the way. I'm doing my best to GAL, take care of myself, stay strong and not plead with her to stop. However, I've tried a few times to suggest that she leave and we separate but she refuses. She insists on wanting her own space which is her code for i want to pursue the affair. Of course she has gone so far as to point out I should be the one to leave. I should be the one to give up the MBR.
At this point we are still sharing the MBR. Honestly it seems like it is worse for her but there is no way that I am leaving the MBR or getting my own place.
The situation is complicated by the fact that she has no job and too much time on her hands. She's idle and unhappy.
Can anyone give advice on how to improve the situation for me? How can I get her to leave the house in a dignified way? Yes at this point I still want her back and am willing to work on the marriage if she were to stop her affair and cease contact with the OM. However, I have faced my fears and I'm not afraid of separation or D.
Me46 W46 M25yrs T29yrs 4 children ILYBNILWY 1/30/17 PA confronted 3/6/17 Separated same house
