Hi altair,

I don't have a lot of advice for you being new to the boards myself and with so many questions, but I wanted to say I'd read your post and my heart breaks for you a bit. I think to myself that, if my marriage ends, I want to look back and be of my behavior and know that I demonstrated strength and a willingness to emerge stronger from a terrible time. From what I read, those are the things you're doing and, when you look back, you will feel proud of your strength. It seems like H moved pretty quickly from bd and your head must have spun and, yet, strength.

Be well and (())


BD#1: "marriage is over" 9/14/2016
H in basement 24/7 with EX/OM
BD#2: 3/20/2017 I plan to move out "soon" I LRT
me: 42, H, 41, EX/OM, 37
D 10, Son 7
M to H = 20 years
EX/OM moved in 10 years ago