So Confused and Conflicted (6)

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I almost never call her, but I started messaging/texting her almost daily, about a week ago. I've gone back to apologizing and trying to convince her things, stuff like that. I think this site saves people. I'm not sure there is much success here with saving marriages, though. I don't plan to keep contacting my wife, but there are things that I want her to know. And I have gone very long periods of time barely talking to her. Also the DB coach a month or so ago advised me to contact her, even though everyone here seems to think no contact is always the best choice.

When she came for her mail last time, I thought about doing a 180, and leaving her mail outside and leaving the house, and I actually did just that. It tore me up to do it, because I wanted to see my wife so badly. I talked to my mom, and she convinced me to go back. I was kind of glad that I did because my wife had been very mad at me lately, and I was glad to see that she was no longer mad, and was very nice and respectful.

If I refrain from contacting her, then we probably wouldn't talk at all for at least a month.