So Confused and Conflicted (6)

[Bdog37]

Hey Wsh,

Quite possibly, but on days she is with him I don't hear from her at all. It is only on her scheduled days with the kids that she decides to contact me in regards to the D situation and everything else. Like she is coming back to reality...

Just out of curiosity, are you calling her often? Are these calls necessary and are you still talking about the R when you do call her?

Next time she comes for the mail leave the house. Go for a walk, go to your friend's house, go for coffee, go to the store, go to your parents house, go anywhere, but just leave. Kindly advise her, via text, that you left her mail in the mailbox and she can go pick it up. Be courteous, but brief and if for some reason she asks about your whereabouts just tell her you are busy. Don't be mean about it, but don't go into a long explanation on what you are doing. Just keep it short and end any convo by telling her to have a good day. Don't be so available for her.

It is wonderful that she was being quite nice, but still seems like you were expecting more. Sounds like you were a little disappointed that she didn't stay long to chit chat? Lower all your expectations with her and refrain from being the one to initiate contact.