"you want me to leave, you don't want me, you don't care."
She is trying to tell you something here. You certainly don't want to go over the top and say "YES, YES, YES...I want you to stay, I want you, please don't leave".
She is certainly doing some temp checking. You just need to find a middle ground here. You don't want to lunge at her and scare her off, but you don't want to come off as cold or "meh" either.
I think you are in a better position than you think you are. She is testing you. Try and find that middle, loving, confidant and strong ground to respond to her.
M-42 W-40 S-12 D-10 Together-13 years Married-10 years Separated-6/2016 ILYBINILWY-7/2016 EA-4/2016 (best guess) PA-7/2016 (best guess)
