Thanks again for you response sandi2! Yes, the IC was for an "action plan". As per your advise to seek a quality pro marriage C, I emailed the IC today and told her that Im not moving forward w her. It wasn't only you, my W and D16 went to a dance competition this weekend which gave me the opportunity to pick up a copy of DR. I had the time to read most of it and I realize that my sitch is in a different place than I realized.
The W seems to not want a D. She wants to move forward with R. She gave a promised NC. I still know I have to be on high alert and skeptical and she may have to go through a withdraw period.
It was me that wasn't sure. After diving into DR I have a different view and understanding that no matter what happened in the past, D is not necessarily the best option (grass isn't greener). So far the book has enlightened me a bit to that. I know that I/we have a long path to recovery and it won't be easy. At least I feel that I have a beneficial tool to create a cognitive "action plan" I do acknowledge that I'm in the beginning stages and its going to take while to adapt to the principles of DR fully, but at least I have a good guide with the Forum and materials. It's going to take a lot of work.
For the first time in about a month I do feel good.
