One week to be divorced... and counting

[25yearsmlc]

the Written agreement says what he wants it to say. There is no need to change the D agreement itself.

He and his wife have informally agreed to changes in the past. THAT is the issue.

I had another thought Ripe, are you just trying to delay signing?

I'm a L and I'm not giving you legal advice but I sure would like to know your Legal reasoning...


IF your wife breaches the divorce decree, Ripe can move to hold her in contempt or ask the judge to enforce it by not letting her go on a trip, or move a day, etc. (which is a pricey nuclear weapon to use and which you may regret later. Surely there may come a time when YOU might need a return favor)...

OR YOU CAN TALK TO HER....like 2 adults and work something out. That was the point of my earlier post.


[quote=bigybiz]Ripe:

I think most of us have wrestled with such issues. If you find your agreement is flawed

it's not the agreement. It's their VERBAL & mutually agreed upon Changes that are now troubling him.

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I personally think it's best for the kids if their schedule is the same no matter what.

"No matter what"??

My mother died on my my brother's ex wife's week. The ex wife had their girls, and she lives in another state. She drove their daughters 7 hours, for the whole week of the funeral, got them new dresses and stayed at a friends while the daughters stayed with my brother.

Yes, they changed the schedule. When my former SIL was in a serious car accident, and again when she flew out of state for a job interview, they allowed their children's schedule to be flexible.

I THINK every div decree i've seen has allowed for "modifications with the express consent of both parties."

Ripe I must not understand your question. On one hand, no I don't think you concerns at PRESENT are worth arguing, and I don't think you are setting a LEGAL precedent by agreeing to a one day thing, now and then. I urged you to choose your battles wisely.

Secondly, IF they are worth arguing, or if you feel strongly about it - then all I'm saying is that you can raise the issue is a more effective way than what I'm picking up on.

Don't get egged on or let anyone (including me) project our situations onto yours.

Good luck