Stang, I just caught up and typed you a post, but my iPad lost it. I'm truly sorry for your situation, but unfortunately there are a lot of us...men and women...that are going thru very similar experiences.
It takes time to detach and that is the key. We are being forced to do something we never thought we'd do.
God showed me that my kids and I are a byproduct of the decisions that my W has made. She lost her battle against the temptations that were placed before her. Please keep your faith and pray that your W be released from these temptations. Everyone on here is from different backgrounds...some believers and some not, but all are good people with wonderful hearts and intentions. Only God knows what is in store for you down the road.
Jeremiah 29:11New American Bible (Revised Edition) (NABRE)
11 For I know well the plans I have in mind for you—oracle of the Lord—plans for your welfare and not for woe, so as to give you a future of hope.
Just take it one day at a time...
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!