You SAY you are going to let W drive this, but if so, then these kinds of messages are kind of unnecessary. Youre bringing up very specific things that you think W should be doing and isnt. If youre letting her drive it, then whya re you asking for such detailed numbers? It comes off like you arent trusting of her.
Im not sure the arrangement you have set up. But why dont the three of you have a group message or group email? When I sold my house a few years back, the realtor had an app that you could see when showings are scheduled and my ex and I both had it on our phones.
I would say there is some information that you need - such as when showings are, but if youre letting W drive, then let her drive. Honestly, it seems very strange that this wouldnt be a joint thing - an opportunity to collaborate and work together, but I suppose thats another issue.
I agree that it's strange it's not a joint thing. We worked on the house as a joint thing to get it ready but without prodding W has shared no info. After I prodded her on the above I finally started to get news out of her. You are right in that I could see how I come out of it looking overbearing but hell, I need to know what's going on at least. I could push to have myself included in communication bt W and realtor but I haven't pushed that yet. I just need the basic information flow. I would do this for W by default but apparently that's not a two way street. Thanks for your thoughts kaizen!
W in a bad mood today. Very snippy and pointed towards me tonight. She's back to eating better, exercising, and getting some sleep now. Hoping that's helping her balance out, but that combined with the change in mood has me thinking she may go to see OM when D and I go on our trip next week. Who knows. I do feel like I'm reaching the end of my patience with this thing though and that certainly would be a strong signal to me if she did. I don't know all, I'm just tired and frustrated, and under the surface a little pissed off about all of this. Not a good combo of emotions but that's where I am.
I look back at the past 10 months and not seeing W make any effort to do anything positive towards our M has me really disliking her. I see this shell of my W but then hear this horrible person when she speaks. Having a tough time seeing how this is worthwhile anymore.
Not giving up, as I'm still choosing to try to fix things. But I'm frustrated that I get beat up at every turn. I feel like I can only take so much of a beating before I just say enough is enough. Rambling now and I probably just need a good nights sleep but that's where I am at the moment.
Looking forward to my week away with D, regardless of what W does. Only one week until we go. Can't come soon enough.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
