SAL, I suspect the reason you have to deal with your wife's hate daily is because you have kids. My friend's exwife is the same way towards him. My wife has cut off almost all contact with me. We don't have kids, and therefore, she has no need to talk to me. Won't respond to anything I say to her, or answer my phone calls. She will respond to things if they are important and not about the relationship. And her responses are as short as possible. She came over for her mail last weekend. I was happy that she did not appear at all mad at me, and was quite nice. But she was very quick to leave. Left after about 15 minutes.

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.