Wife left two days before our anniversary! Part 2

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Going dark isn't a strategy to get her to come back. In my understanding, it does two main things:

1) It gives you the space you need to be able to grow and change. If you're in constant contact with W, then you will be focused on that. Instead, being dark, lets you have the opportunity to focus on yourself and rebuilding.

2) It forces you to stop pursuing. You cant very well pursue your W while you're dark, now can you?

So, basically, it provides an insulative bubble around you where you can begin to shape your life as you want. If she were to come back right now, you would be the same person and youd have the same relationship - which didn't work! So, now is the time to really focus on your life and what you want to make of it.

So, how about we work to set little goals for you? What would you like to accomplish this weekend?

Understood, thanks Kaizen. I wanted to focus on some pressing errands this weekend that have been pending since this sitch began. However, just got back from the doc's as I'm down with a bad case of the flu. So will be taking it easy so I can regain my strength. My copy of DR is here so will start reading it too.