I think my biggest issue with divorce is allowing the state into my relationship with my children. I think this is why I have avoided anything formal and have no intention of ever filing for divorce. My youngest is almost 14. I could see letting this sit for years if he doesn't push it. I think once the kids are out of the house and we are signing a piece of paper about property it doesn't have the same emotional impact for me. I am not sure how I would handle a court-ordered parenting class. I can see the benefits in some cases, but in SBJ's I can see it also doing more harm than good.
