Sorry you find yourself in this mess. You have some to a great place!
As you said, time is your friend. And, unfortunately, also your enemy. You seem to have a grasp on things and doing better than most newcomers. It's not easy, but you got this.
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She has suggested and encouraged me to date. Is dating part of getting a life or should it be avoided at all costs? I haven't seen that addressed here. I have been out with a few women, and enjoyed myself, but feel guilty for feeling like I'm cheating on my wife, and knowing these women are looking for a relationship, and I know I would avoid one, so I feel like I'm wasting their time
Just because she suggested means you don't have to IF you don't want, to. Her suggesting you do that expresses guilt and that she is trying to get you to move on. Sorry if that is blunt. Now, do you have to? No. Some will say don't. Some will say do. Listen only to yourself. I subscribe to the "do" crowd. Even if its just coffee, it can work wonders on a soul that has been beat to hell and back. I get the part about feeling guilty and like I was cheating - felt the same way at first...then I realized she wasn't coming back and at some point I have to live my own life...with or without her.
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I guess my last question is.... How long do you implement these techniques and pine away for your wife until you are a chump and a doormat?
That's a question that only YOU can answer.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
