I don't mean to hi jack but 25MLC brings up control and that's a hot button issue for many of us - me too.
If Ripe wants to stick to the agreement as laid out how is that controlling?
I agree that if anyone wants flexibility with the other side they have to offer it. If they don't want it why is that controlling? I would ask the question that if someone is too available for the other side to live their new life - are we not being doormats?
I dont want to speak for 25years, but the way I understand it, Ripe has deviated from the schedule in multiple occasions in the past and admittedly with acceptable results.
I dont have an issue to sticking to the agreement as written if it's done consistently. But to reference this document only in certain occasions comes off as controlling to me.
For me, my ex and I have a very clear schedule about who has what days on childcare. If I get asked for a switch or to watch the kids extra, then I look at my schedule and decide. Sometimes, it's fine and sometimes Im busy. In this instance, Ripe wanted to use what his W was going to do with the time as his judgment criteria for whether to take the kids; I think thats not a great way to proceed - her time is her time. Focus on what YOU want out of what you can control with your time.
