As for forgiving her about her affair...I am truthful when I say I will look passed that. it is not fear of losing her. I really do love/care for her that much.
Yes, it is a fear of losing her. Otherwise, why are you so willing to look past a cheater?
You should ask yourself why you feel that way when it isn't returned? This isn't a new thing for her as the situation was played out long in advance. Sometimes we need to look at our own selfish reasons versus reality.
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she says she loves me for being the father of our childern
That's exactly what it is. Don't read into it.
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The problem is, she does not want to give me the chance to show her. She is too blinded by this new guy and its butter flies and meant to be situation that I dont stand a chance frown
Never should you even try to show her that you "changed." Why? Because it is strictly a pursuit matter. Think of it like this - she's gone, right? So now you say, "Hey, look at me - I've done all this changing and am a better man now." How do you think that looks in her eyes? Just like a ploy.
Sorry to be brutal, but it is what it is. Instead of worrying about a chance with her, how about taking a chance on yourself and living/growing your own life? That way, you'll be better off for whatever new woman may come into your life.
Last edited by Cadet; 03/31/1708:55 AM.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
