Is there any way you guys would be willing to go to a marital mediator or a marriage counselor ? It seems like it might be helpful if someone was there to guide the conversation a little bit - a neutral party pointing out his being stuck might be a bit of a catalyst.
I dunno ... I see a guy who doesn't want to be divorced but doesn't know what to do to save his marriage so he defaults to the complaint list. Am I wrong? Probably.
And no, you shouldn't have to ever change who you are.
Parenting was hard for us too. We were together for 10 years before we decided to have a family and were so happy when I got pregnant and our son was born, but things changed dramatically. ExMIL interfered to the point of us almost breaking up.
My exh felt I put son first and yes, I admit I did - more than I should have. But I also see that my exh really needed me to be the mother he didn't have and on some level resented me being that mother to our son. It was a painful place for him because he wanted his son to have a great mom, but it certainly highlighted what he didn't have himself.
Sweetheart you know I love you and only want you to be happy. Take a deep breath, do something nice for yourself like a bubble bath or a nice hike. Think deeply about what you want and envision your life five years from now. How does it look? Who do you want to be? What kind of a mom do you want to be? Who is beside you? You will find your answers by going deep inside yourself.
I'm here xoxoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
